Finding out you are having your first child can be thrilling and terrifying. Hormones are out of control and emotions are raw. Trust me I have been there. Well my friend just told me that her and her boyfriend were expecting their child. She loved the advice I gave her, so I thought I would share it with you. She said everyone has been giving her advice, but mine was empowering. With the hope that this will help you, here is the advice I gave her.
You ARE Doing Everything Right
If you are want to have a Star Wars themed nursery but your mom thought it was to dark for the baby, HAVE a Star Wars nursery! As long as there is nothing close to the baby that could cause him/her harm. DO IT! If you don’t want to breast feed for person reasons, DON’T. Lots of kids were formula fed and turned out just fine… as long as your child is eating do what you think is best! Basically moms and dads as long as that baby is safe, fed and loved do what you is right for you and your family.
Don’t Be Bullied
Grandparents, friends, siblings, co-workers will give you their input on any situation. Well grandparents are wonderful for help and support just because they give their advice it doesn’t mean you have to take their advice. While their input can be helpful please remember the decision is yours to make. Your choice of discipline, bedtimes, food, etc… if you say no candy don’t let someone talk you into it! Make your decisions and stick together as a team.
Your Best Is Good Enough
As long as your child is healthy, looked after and loved, you are doing a great job! I have spent days taking care of my daughter and neglecting house work. More than once I have felt like a horrible parent for losing my cool and sending my daughter to her room. My daughter has eaten ramen for dinner because by the end of the day I was to tired to cook a meal. You have to learn not to be to hard on yourself. I am not saying it is okay to completely let everything go, but it is okay if the day get long and some things have to wait until tomorrow.
You Will Know What To Do
New moms are terrified that their babies will need or want something and they wont know what to do. Moms, the first time you hold your child you will get your mommy super powers. I didn’t believe it but it’s true. Within a few days of having my daughter I could tell if she was sleepy, hungry, need to burp or was gassy by her cry. You will just know if it is an I need attention cry or I need you now. I know before you get the super powers it’s hard to believe but I can prove it. Go to a friends house that’s a mom with more than one kid for coffee. One of her kids starts crying she can tell which one and if it’s real from two rooms away! This is sometimes followed by her telling another child to stop what they are doing without seeing the child do anything.
DON’T Ask About Other Moms Birth Experience
Chances are moms will offer them whether you ask or not, but every situation is different. If you are nervous talk with your doctor about what to expect and measures that will be taken to ensure a safe delivery for you and your little one. Their are a lot of horror stories out there, these will not prepare you for anything, these stores will only cause you anxiety and nightmares.
Well I hope this advice helps. Please don’t let yourself get to wrapped up in the worry to not let yourself see the beauty you are creating. You are this child’s parent and I know you have what it takes if you just let yourself be happy. Congratulations on baby number 1, I wish you both good health!
Please comment if you have any questions or advice you would like to give other moms!